Women Love Men Who...

Women Love Men Who Give Them...
You don't have to know Covert Hypnosis to understand this. (OK
it never hurts!)

Women know exactly what they want.

Most men will be surprised to know that one thing women want badly
will cost you absolutely nothing.

Ask any woman what traits she wants in a man and within the top 3
will be...a sense of humor.


The other top 2 will probably be some form of intelligence and
ability to support her in the style to which she would like to be
accustomed.



And humor, it now appears, is one way to judge the other two.


Because when humor is done well, it takes smarts and social prowess.


In his article in Psychology Today, "Laughing All the Way to the
Bedroom",(May 2011) Gil Greenhouse, psychologist and anthropologist,
says:

"The ability to say something funny requires a high level of
intelligence. If you memorize a thousand jokes, that doesn't make you
a person with a sense of humor. Sense of humor is more subtle. A good
sense of humor is about timing, the ability to say the funny thing at
the right time and to the right people. Telling a sexist joke in a
room full of women will probably not score many points with the
audience. Humor is largely an interpersonal activity that requires a
high level of emotional, social and also mating intelligence."

[Do follow Greenhouse. He's cutting edge. Sharp!]


He goes on to say that humor is valued highly by women, and is
listed as one of the top 3 qualities by women in online dating ads.
He also quotes another study done by Eric Bressler, Sigal Balshine
and Rod Martin in which they found that women want a man that will
make them laugh.

Men of course start trying to impress in grade school.

Then the path looks to be ...dominance.

The way of the bully.

Fortunately, shortly after grade school, the second way to social
status emerges.

Prestige.

Writing on this subject on Huff post,(May 2011) Scott Barry
Kaufman,(Cognitive scientist, personality psychologist and professor,
NYU...another guy you need to follow.) :

The dominant path is paved with conceit and arrogance, whereas the
prestigious path is paved with accomplishment, skill and prosocial
behaviors.

Hmmm.

And Science Daily reports: - A new study in the journal Personal Relationships reveals that women prefer mates who are recognized by their peers for their skills, abilities, and achievements, while not preferring men who use coercive tactics to
subordinate their rivals....Women most likely avoid dominant men as
long-term romantic partners because a dominant man may also be
domineering in the household.

Back to Scott Kaufman.....he points out that humans use humor
effectively to pursue and conquer sexually.

"Studies by Gil Greengross, Geoffrey Miller, me (Kaufman) and others have
indeed shown the benefits of humor for intersexual selection -- funny
people do report having more sex and more sexual partners, and they
report starting to have sex earlier in life".

I don't think he's joking.

Which do you think came first, the sex or the laughter?

Kaufman further bolstesr his idea that there is evidence that humor
is related to sexual selection and is a positive social trait with
this study..

Men's sense of humor on women's response to courtship solicitations:
an experimental field study
Nicolas Guéguen
Université de Bretagne Sud
Summary. - Producing humor might function as a fitness indicator
associated with greater desirability during dating selection. An
experiment was carried out in which a male confederate in a bar was
instructed to tell (or not) funny jokes to two other male
confederates. A few minutes later, when the second two male
confederates left, the first male confederate asked a female who was
near his table and who had heard the funny jokes for her phone
number. The previous expression of humor was associated with greater
compliance to the male confederate's request and with a higher
positive evaluation. The possible effects of humor are discussed from
an evolutionary perspective.

The official version of this article is available at:
http://www.amsciepub.com/doi/pdf/10.2466/07.17.PR0.107.4.145-156
Cited as:
Guéguen, N.

The result was that the man got the womans phone number more
frequently when she thought he was funny AND when she thought his
friends thought he was funny.


Both humor and social proof at work here.


He has prestige and he is funny.


Humor is PART of prestige.

It's part of intelligence.

And its very attractive to women.

What else influences women?

Is it possible that "Nice guys finish last...unless they have a porsche?"

Maybe...

Peacocks with the largest and most elaborate plumage will win the
right to mate with a female...then says 'see ya' and leaves the
female to parent his offspring. Peacocks are notorious for their
wasteful displays that serve no other function but to spread their
seed to as many peahens as possible, along with their low parental
investment. They would have been the perfect companions for Ghenghis
Khan. It is thought that 1/6 of all people are his descendants. Kudos

Analogously, it has been a common belief for years that men with
flashy cars attract women.

But is this really true?

A new study conducted by Jill Sundie and colleagues published in the
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology confirms this phenomenon
with a resounding "YES".

Spending money on extra expensive goods is called conspicuous
consumption. Usually these take form in sports cars, designer
clothing and shoes, among other things that scream bling.

Men that are conspicuous spenders (think Porsche) that readily
display their wealth tend to

-look for short term sexual relationships or one night stands
-attract far more females than more frugal men (think Toyota Corolla
or Honda Civic)
-spend lots of money in hopes of romantic flings

However, females CAN and DO see through wasteful spending and showy
displays.

Females will only prefer the conspicuous spenders if they are also
looking for short term relationships. Excessive spending signals to
females that the males are looking for fun, and would probably be
more interesting on a date.

Excessive spending DID NOT give men an advantage if they were
looking for a long term mate:

Guys...if you are interested in a long term relationship but like to
show off your wealth...your message is probably being lost in
translation.

Women are more likely to go for the frugal spender if they are
looking for something more long term. Flashy cars and expensive
clothes won't get men anywhere if females are looking for someone who
is loyal, can invest in a family, and would be a good father to their
offspring. Marriage material.

Females can be conspicuous spenders too...but it's not because they
are intending to attract a mate.